A couple from Portland, Oregon have filed suit against their obstetrician on the grounds of “wrongful birth.”
In the months before their daughter was born in 2007, Deborah and Ariel Levy worried the baby might have Down syndrome.
They say a doctor at the Legacy Center for Maternal-Fetal Medicine assured them that a sample of tissue taken from the placenta early in the pregnancy ruled out the developmental disability, despite the results of later testing that showed the fetus might have it.
But within days of the birth of their daughter, the Southwest Portland couple learned the baby did have Down syndrome. Had they known, they say, they would have terminated the pregnancy. Now they’re suing in Multnomah County Circuit Court, seeking more than $14 million to cover the costs of raising her and providing education, medical care, and speech and physical therapy for their daughter, who turned 2 this month. The suit also seeks money to cover her life-long living expenses.
The Levys declined to be interviewed. Their attorney, David K. Miller, said the toddler is as dear to them as their two older children but they fear being perceived as “heartless.”
With fewer than ten suits filed each year these cases are currently very rare in the United States, because to succeed parents need to prove a very awkward point.
Parents must be willing to declare “we feel burdened to have this child,” [said Arthur Caplan, director of the Center for Bioethics at the University of Pennsylvania.]
And in order for the suits to succeed, courts must be willing to rule that “it’s better not to exist and give damages for having to exist,” Caplan said.
Isn’t the point of such suits to make the damaged party “whole?” Normally that isn’t possible and so money is awarded to compensate. In this case, however, the parents simply wish their baby didn’t exist. Would a hit man really charge $14 million dollars to solve their “problem?”*
Here’s a suggestion: give these parents a few thousand dollars to compensate them for the cost of the delivery, and remove the child from their custody. Place the girl in a loving adoptive home.
“Problem” solved.
h/t: Secondhand Smoke
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*This is an attempt at Swiftian satire. I am not actually proposing this.
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Ya know who I’m sad for? The older kids. They are being taught that they are only here because they were perfect, you have only as much worth as we see.
My parents did a lot of wrong things, but they HAD me. My mom was encouraged to abort, my dad was in the Navy, he could have set sail and never come back. But they chose to have me, for better or worse. That went far for convincing me that I really was loved, no matter what else they said or did.
14 million seems a bit high to me. I think what they really want is to put her away so they can forget they had her.
What is with a society that thinks there are guarantees with having a child? You get what you get. I wouldn’t have chosen twins twice, but I got them and they are lovely. They didn’t ask to be born or to be born twins either. It’s not anyone’s fault. It was decided by someone outside our family, who truly knows and cares for us and decided to bless us even though we don’t deserve it. The Bible never refers to children in any other light (unless you count the unruly ones). God could have used so many things to refine my character (no really, this is much better than it was), infirmity, poverty, loss of spouse, persecution, but He chose children, a BLESSING, to do it. Every one, even the ones who died, has knocked a few more rough edges off. God chose a special little girl for this couple and supernaturally protected her from their own stupidity in order to bless them and they are too concerned about the bank account to see it.
Well, cheer up mom and dad, if she’s got enough problems to need 14 million, her life expectancy isn’t long, you’ll soon be “free” of her. Let’s see if you like that option better. I know she will.
That is one of the saddest things I have ever read. I agree with your solution, Mike, but I would go one step further and pull all of the kids out and find a new home for them together – that way the adults (I refuse to call them parents) would have no burdens at all. How can those adults sleep at night?
Isn’t Oregon full of nice surprises? Legal assisted suicide (Obamacare will work great there – can’t afford it? Let’s put them down!) and now people who must be hugely compensated to care for their own children. That’s awesome!
this is a sad story, but all too common these days as people fall away from God.
reminds me of Obama (who apparently throws Jesus around more than Bush did) a few weeks ago, as he speculated on his girls possibly making mistakes, referring to the resulting children as “punishment.” (I can’t remember the exact context at the moment, I think a town hall or something)
Unfortunately this is legal and the logical conclusion of the Roe v. Wade and Doe v. Bolton world we’re in. When baby-killing for potential deformities enters the “scope of practice” for physicians and “health of the mother” includes “ewwwwwwww!” as one definition then bringing a child into this world like that exposes the doctor.
Hmmmm….. wonder which way doctors will lean when these abortive situations arise and they are giving advice? Downs children are already disappearing from the landscape, suits like this will terminate the concept entirely — plus a whole lot of false positives who show Downs “potential” but turn out completely healthy — except they were killed by the doctor.
Who would have thought the movie Gattaca was so prophetic?
Eugenics is back, baby. Remove all undesirables!
Gee, what would you do if your spouse ordered diamonds for you and received cubic zirconium instead? You might keep it for sentimental reasons, but you would sue the jewelry store for giving you the wrong product. Same thing with the baby, right?
</snark>
“The Levys declined to be interviewed. Their attorney, David K. Miller, said the toddler is as dear to them as their two older children but they fear being perceived as “heartless.”
Golly, do ya think…”heartless?” Money grabs always bring out the best in sheeple!
+JMJ+
She is a beautiful little girl who deserves better parents.
Those people should not be parents. That is their child and they need to act like it.
This irritates me to no end. They have no idea how much of a blessing they received by having that little girl. If it were up to me, I would take her in a heartbeat. My youngest brother does have down syndrome and he has taught me so much about life and what it means to truely be happy.
As for them being worried about being seen as heartless, they shouldnt have gone to court if thats not what they wanted!!
that’s extremely sadddd . like really , if you wouldve known you would’ve terminated the pregnancy? that’s horrible. just because she isn’t perfect doesn’t mean anything. she is perfect. she is an adorable little baby and deserves good parents that are going to love her and you guys obviously are not at all. it is horrible how heartless people can be!
Welcome, Maggie!
We’ve got a happier post up today, also about an “imperfect” baby. Check it out.
it is easy to judge people when you don’t have a kid with down syndrome.my baby was born 2 months ago, i had prenatal screening but my incompetent doctor told me everything was ok during my pregnancy.oh well my baby boy ended up having down syndrome.i been living in hell since then.i have an healthy little boy ,i never thought it will happen to me….but it did.let me tell you it is not easy to accept it but everybody should be able to make their own decisions.the poor parents are trying to be there for the baby but they feel cheated from doctors.it is 2010 we have different way to detect this problem and docs should offer amniocentesis to all the pregnant women.we decide to give him up for adoption now let GOD JUDGE US NOT YOU!!!!
angela… Welcome to Threedonia and thanks for your comment.
I have a cousin with Downs who is in his mid-50s. My first cousin cares for him and while he’s not self-sufficient he’s hardly an undue burden — at least according to my caretaker cousin. I — and anyone around here wouldn’t sink to judging your feelings about having a Down’s Syndrome child. We would also never try to judge your soul or whatever. BUT any of us (anyone generally) is more than capable of judging between right and wrong. I think terminating a human life for one’s own quality of life is wrong. I make no apologies for that. It doesn’t mean it’s easy for you or pleasant or whatever. But my cousin Ronald has a happy life. His quality of life seems good from my decades of experiencing his unalloyed joy at many of life’s experiences. Does he wish his Mom had terminated him? I doubt it even if his mom did wish it.
angela, I do not judge you. I pray you, your son and your husband are getting help and that your son gets the care he needs. God bless all three of you!
I’m sad all this has been so awful for you. It must be heart wrenching to go through. I have a great respect for you to recognize what you need and to give the child up. That is another whole grieving process.
I have not given birth to a child with Down’s, I have buried a child though. My feelings about that are what causes me to have a very emotional reaction to parents who wish their child was dead.
There is a difference in saying “I can not handle this, I need help” or even, “I cannot handle this I need someone else to raise them” and saying, “I cannot handle this, the child should have died”. One is a mature acceptance of limitations and reality. I have friends who are working to adopt children with Down’s that want very much for those children to live, spending thousands of dollars to bring them home, and then thousands more to care for them.
I also do not believe amniocentesis for everyone would be the answer, as there is a significant risk, especially before 20 weeks, when most people would want it to make a decision. It would be horrible to have the child die from the testing only to find out they were normal.
Angela.. I am no one to judge.. I have a wonderful downsydrome niece. She is my sister’s 2nd child of three and her only daughter. When she was born the doctors told my sister that she might not live that long, that she might not hear, talk, walk or do anything on her own. She is now 22 yrs old graduated from high school was in dance prep, is in special olympics and she is very active. My sister recently went through a divorce after 30 yrs of marriage her two boys went their own seperate ways, living their own lifes realing not including their mom in much of their lives only when they need $$$$, but my niece is there… when she was going thru her divorce she would hug and kiss her mom when she would cry. They do all these girl things together, go out, dance they are like best friends of course with a dissagreement here and there sometimes. She can not imagine how she would have lived her life with out that little girl, she would be so lonely and depressed that girl has been her rock. Her downsydrome daughter is there for her unlike her normal children. I strongly believe God sends them to certain people for a reason as a benefit not as a punishment.
During the course of my wife’s recent pregnancy, I was alarmed at how often I was asked about “options.”
the baby needs a surgery but 95%everything will go well.thank God he doesn’t have a heart problem.we have caseworkers helping us coping but honestly you are the only one who can help yourself.i’m tired of people telling us how sorry they are because nobody died!i wish i could make myself believe that i can do it but deep down i know i can’t.i give him life and i find a family who will care for him as a person not as a problem.i been crying a lot and i just hope the best for him and us…..
angela, the caseworkers have a lot of experience with these types of situations. They will help you, your husband and your son regardless of your decision. There is nothing wrong with admitting you need help and there is nothing wrong with accepting the help of others when you need help. I hope your son’s surgery goes well. I do not want to discuss my personal life on this subject, but I promise you I understand your circumstance. It’s normal to cry but don’t give up hope. As impossible as it seems now, things will get better. If you determine it is best that others raise your son that is fine. The caseworkers will find loving people to care for him. If you need more time to decide they will help you cope. God bless you all.
floyd…after my experience i learned how do not judge nobody.As a women and a mom i can tell you how difficult it is to raise a kid but to do it when you are not ready it’s worst.life is a gift and a baby is too.they are people who are stronger than others but it doesn’t make them better.sometimes accepting your limitation is being mature too.God bless your cousin and my baby but learn how to express your opinions and respect mothers choices even when you don’t approve them.
angela, I agree. Knowing and accepting your limitations is very mature. We all need help. Knowing when to ask for help is also a sign of maturity. I pray you have the help you need. Love and prayers to you and your family.
My prayers are with you, Angela. You sound like a very caring mother, and I know you have your baby’s best interests at heart.
I agree with all that angela… of course I don’t know how hard it is from direct experience so I would never tell you it’s easier than it looks or whatever. I won’t belabor the point because piling on would be useless. And I sincerely do hope and pray for the best for your baby and you. My uncle and aunt had a lot of joyful moments with Ronald over 40 some-odd years before they passed and they had some heartache too of course.
hello everyone who is on this site.i just want to say thank you for all your prayers.this friday my baby will have a big surgery and i hope for the best.some days are better than others but i’m still coping.i been talking to a caseworker and they already find a lovely family for my little one.i should be happy for this but i’m not because deep down i feel so guilty.i never tough this will happen to me and my husband.i’m writing this and crying .i wish i was stronger but i realize how weak i am.i’m scared to handle my baby over to someone i wish i can wake up and all this was just a bad dream….i hope to find my faith again because i know i’m soo lost……
Just take it one day, one hour, one minute at a time, angela. God can help you if you invite Him into your life. We all have times when we doubt our faith but God does not want you or your baby to suffer alone. I will pray that the surgery is successful!
he couldn’t have a surgery for another complication.now we don’t know when his going to have another x-ray because he is still not stable.when i go to the hospital i am always so sad in fact sometimes i wish i never had him…i know this may sound horrible but my baby is going through so much already and we still don’t know if he will be ok after the surgery.i baptize him yesterday and i felt better with myself.i cried a lot and i wish they were tears of happiness but they were not.i still wish on a miracle…..i hate myself for thinking about adoption i am so scared about giving him away but when i see him i know i can handle it and my baby deserves the best.any advices?
Angela, I’m not a parent and I’m not much help in the advice department. I hope another Threedonian can help you there.
I just want you to know that you and your baby will be in my prayers. Don’t stop praying for a miracle. Stay strong. I’ve always felt that God won’t give us more than we can handle though it’s hard to see that when you’re going through it all.
I’m assuming you’re a Christian. If I’m correct one thing I can tell you is to trust Jesus. When you begin to despair stop what you’re thinking and say “Jesus, I trust in you.”
I do understand the feeling of wishing you’d never had them. I wished that at times with my perfectly healthy but difficult 2nd set of twins.
As I said, I do know a number of parents who are adopting children with DS, they are some truly incredible people. Making that choice could be very good for him.
However, looking at my own life, the things I absolutely did not want and thought would kill me getting through were ultimately things that changed me for the best. There is no pain without purpose.
You have my prayers
Nothing happens by accident, Angela. God always has a plan for our lives, whether we can see it directly or not. Your little one is loved by God, as are you. The child may have been brought into your life to strengthen you and bring you closer to God. The trials and tribulations of this life, if one allows God to work through them, and in spite of them, will lead to greater wisdom and strength, and will someday lead you into His presence in Heaven, if you will surrender all your cares to Him. Blind faith is a hard commodity to understand, but it can lead to much richness of spirit, in this life and the next. God bless you! We all here at Threedonia are praying for you and your entire family.
Amen, Fritz.
Angela I have a sister in law with Downs and let me say this: as tough as it is it is also one of the most rewarding things a parent can do, raise a child with Downs. Embrace it because the baby isn’t a stigma he is a gift. Just trust in God and hold that baby. We will be thinking about you and your family and the baby. Hugs.
S
next week we’ll have a meeting with his possible adopting parents.i’m so nervous i wish i didn’t have to do this but deep down i know this is the best for everybody.my husband is sure about his decision ,me instead i just feel really guilty.the baby got an infection in his lungs last week but he is doing well at least he is not on oxigen anymore.he is a strong little one i’m happy for this.i been thinking about him every moment of the day and i’m asking why ?my half sister just had a baby and she is so happy instead me…..i think i am not sure what is the right thing to do anymore because it will be difficult either way.
I’ll bet once you meet the prospective parents you’ll start to feel better. Not wonderful, but better.
Please keep us updated.
today i went and visited him .he looked better not swollen anymore.he is still on antibiotics because of a lung infection but the nurses told me he is fine.on thursday he will have an x-rays to see if he is ready for the surgery.i hold him he is cute but you can tell he has down syndrome from his facial features….i hope everything will be fine with him so he can finally eat from a bottle…i will write you back to let you know the result of his tests….thanks for keeping us in your prayers
Hope to hear from you Thursday.
hope most of you guys know Spanish. I’m 19 yrs old & my platinum goal in live is to become a mother. From my point of view, if you really want something, like being a parent, you will really need to love as a Parent would. What would have happened if those 2 older kids weren’t totally healthy? Wouldn’t u loved them as well? If that girl was born with Down syndrome, or any other condition, it was because u guys need something to learn from live. She’s here for a reason. & yes, u r showing ur kids that “perfect” human forms r the only loved 2b! & that ain’t right. A friend of mine has a stepson that has down syndrome & she loves him more than she has loved anything else in this life, even thou she ain’t here biological mother. Being a parent involves responsibilities, and a lot of expenses, yes. but it ain’t no reason for not being a good parent if u don’t have $$. trust me, i know a loooooooot of ppl that has to take care about their kids, with conditions worst than Down syndrome & they have done it without a large sum of $$…. i wrote this like more than 3 weeks ago or so in my facebook notes…it’s in spanish but i would love u guys to try to translate it, cuz it really came from my <3
Carta de mami y papi a bebe down
inspirado por: carta a mami i papi de un bebi con down
by marilia aka l.pos.septic! 
* Debo admitirte hijo mio, que no te esperaba asi, aunque sabia de la minima posibilidad.Se que estando dentro de mi, tenias conocimiento sobre las cosas que papi y yo queriamos para ti en un futuro, pero sobre todo, como las queriamos. No nos arrepentimos de tu llegada, mucho menos de tu bendicion. Los tropiezos y enredos de tus manitas nos van a ayudar a adquirir la paciencia que tanto le habiamos pedido a papito Dios y nos va a ayudar a aprender realmente lo que es vivir. Queremos que sepas que no por ser diferente a la mayoria, pero parecido a muchos, seras feo, o raro, como para algunos.Tampoco seras bello por ser nuestro hijo, sino, seras bello por el don que Dios te ha dado.Seras el portador de la herramienta mas grande contra la arrogancia, gnorancia, impaciencia y desconsideracion que hay entre las personas… to be continued
Carta de mami y papi a bebe down pt2
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…No seras una carga, seras nuestra enseNanza. PapA y yo prometemos estar contigo siempre. Esta union si serA hasta que la muerte nos separe. Te prometemos que no solo te miraremos con anhelos de inteligencia, agilidad o algun otro don, pero que seremos capaces con tu ayuda de lograr empujarte a eso. No solo sera ilusion, seran tus logros. Se nos hara mas dificil criarte a ti que lo que se le hara a cualquier otra pareja de padres, pues somos nosotros los que mas ayuda necesitamos en la vida y como mediador Dios te envio. Estaremos contigo tomados de las manos a traves del camino de la vida ayudandote a cruzar cada charco y a cruzar cada puente que haya que cruzar. Somos papA y mamA de un angelito especial con el toque esencial de sindrome down y tenemos mucho que aprender de este mundo…tu tambien.
IT IS A LETTER WRITTEN FROM "MOM ^&^ DADDY" TO THEIR BABY WITH DOWN SYNDROME…
& ANGELA…
I’m not a mother, but i was raised to be the mother of my 2 little brothers, & the little one was “supposed” to come w/ down syndrome as the tests showed when he was still unborn…that boy calls me mom, he wasn’t inside me for 9 months, but he’s in my heart since the day i knew my mom was pregnant. thank God he’s totally healthy, cuz ur right, it’s nt easy for anyone to accept or to overcome the situation, but think about it…Down syndrome happens when both, mom & dad, have that same gen with the same anomaly. Practically, it isn’t the kid’s fault, & I’M NOT SAYING IT IS PARENTS FAULT EITHER, i just mean that it is because of the 2 conceivers that there comes a baby with that syndrome. think about the satisfaction as a mother, and a father, that u & the baby’s daddy would have if both of u take care of that child…u would be more than heroes in ur life. u’ll be doing ur part as parents. Parenting life isn’t always pink, but although it ain’t it’s in ur hands 2 change the color
again, i’m not trying 2 judge u……..cuz i can’t … I’m not God… but i do can try to give u support even if i don’t know u… i’m volunteer at MAAVI…a Fed. Funds organization that shows ppl with different kinds & levels of retardation or syndromes the basic things for living, like managing money, basic school subjects adjusted to their capabilities, how to cook, how to clean up their things, and so on. when they finish their 6months courses, if they are prepared for outer world, we look a job for them. one of our best boys is a boy that is now 28 and after completing his courses at maavi, we encourage him to take a banking course of a year, he is now working at one of the most important banks here at PUerto Rico… things can be done if u really want them 2 be…. 
oh…& i forgot 2 tell u … he HAS DOWN SYNDROME!
dear nikole,my baby had trisonomy 21 is not an ereditary down syndrome but it is a random error in a cell division when the egg and the sperm came toghether.traslocation down syndrome instead is the only one where one of the parents is a carrier.so not me or my husband cause the baby the down syndrome.everyone has the right to have an opinion .would you like a baby to be in a family where not everybody can cope with his problem or to be with someone else who will giving caring and love?what’s wrong to admit when you are not ready for something?it doesn’t make you a bad person.i’m there for him and i hold him every time i see him in the hospital.i want the best for him even so i can’t give him that i found a beautiful family for him.i did not leave him to be in a foster house because i love him.there was nothing i did or nothing i could done to prevent the baby to have down syndrome.what happen to me can happen to everybody that’s the reason why they give prenatal screening to all pregnant women but sometimes they cannot detect a problem .for this they are more invasive test like cvs or amniocentesis.if i knew i would be prepared for a special need baby or i had to make a drastic decesion ,but even there we are nobady to say what’s right or wrong like i said beforelet God judge and He never does that because He forgives .
to all the people they pray for us i have finally good news.i met with his potential adoptive parents and i can say they are wonderful.i admire them because they already have a son like mine but they want to care for my baby too.if i decide to loose my parental rigths i will still be able to see him because the both of us wanted an open adoption.today my little angel had an x-ray done to see if he is ready to finally have his surgery. i will find out later what were the result and i will give you updates.thank you for being close to us with your prayers…..hope God will help us to make the right decision….
He will, angela. So glad to hear things are moving positively for you.
Thank you for the update. It is great to hear you have met the prospective parents and that you like them.
Angela, I’m proud of you.
oh they did the test on him and he still not ready to have the surgery they will test him again in about two weeks….the good news is they put him back on pedialyte for now and if he does well they’ll put him back on formula.he gain some weight too….i hope the best for him, i will go see him tomorrow and bring him his first toy!i hope he’ll like….
I am sure he will like the toy! My wife is a specialist who works with handicapped infants. I have learned a lot about feeding from her. It is a very good sign that he can already take pedialyte and may soon be on formula. She sees many kids who still can’t take formula at 2 years and older! I am glad to hear your spirits are better and you and he are stronger. Hopefully you are both getting the rest you need.
God bless you, Angela!
HI ,I WENT TO SEE THE BABY AGAIN TODAY TO TALK ABOUT HIS GI PROBLEM. TOMORROW HE WILL HAVE HIS FIRST SURGERY JUST TO AVOID THE SALIVA TO GO TO THE LUNGS.HIS MAJOR SURGERY WILL HAPPEN IN ABOUT 6 MONTHS AND HIS RECOVERY IN ONE MONTH…ACCORDING TO THE DOCTORS THE SURGERIES SHOULD GO FINE UNLESS IF THERE WILL BE A COMPLICATION….I HOPE NOT.THEY ALSO TOLD ME HE COULD STAY ANOTHER MONTH IN THE HOSPITAL BUT AFTER HE’LL NEED TO GO HOME AND CAME BACK IN 6 MONTHS FOR HIS BIG SURGERY.I BEEN CRYING A LOT IN THE HOSPITAL BUT I HAVE A LOT SUPPORT FROM THE NURSES.THEY ARE GREAT!!!!SO TO ALL THE PEOPLE JUDGING OTHERS FOR TERMINATE A PREGNANCY BELIEVE ME STOP DOING THAT KEEP YOUR OPINION FOR YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT IN THE POSITION I AM!!!BELIEVE ME YOU DON’T WANT TO BE ME NOW…I LOVE MY BABY ,I WISH HIM THE BEST!!!I’M NOT TAKING HIM HOME NOT BECAUSE I’M HEARTLESS BUT FOR THE WELL BEING OF MY FAMILY.HOW WOULD I EXPLAIN TO MYSELF,MY HUSBAND AND MY OTHER SON THAT THE BABY NEEDS TO BE PLACED IN ANOTHER FAMILY AFTER 6 MONTHS,I’M SORRY BUT I WILL NOT BE CAPABLE TO LIVE THAT..HE WILL BE TAKING CARE OF IN ANOTHER FACILITY WITH NURSES,I WILL STILL BE ABLE TO GO SEE HIM AND TO BE THERE FOR HIS BIG DAY TO CAME!!!AM I ABLE TO STAY THERE FOR HIM FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE?I KNOW I CAN’T DO IT WITHOUT HAVING ANY SUPPORT…I FORGOT TO TELL YOU I DON’T HAVE ANY FAMILY SUPPORT IN FACT MY MOTHER IN LAW IS TELLING MY HUSBAND TO LEAVE ME BECAUSE SHE THINKS I’M SICK… THANK GOD HE LOVES ME AND WE’RE REALLY TAKING DECISIONS TOGHETHER
HI ,I WENT TO SEE THE BABY AGAIN TODAY TO TALK ABOUT HIS GI PROBLEM. TOMORROW HE WILL HAVE HIS FIRST SURGERY JUST TO AVOID THE SALIVA TO GO TO THE LUNGS.HIS MAJOR SURGERY WILL HAPPEN IN ABOUT 6 MONTHS AND HIS RECOVERY IN ONE MONTH…ACCORDING TO THE DOCTORS THE SURGERIES SHOULD GO FINE UNLESS IF THERE WILL BE A COMPLICATION….I HOPE NOT.THEY ALSO TOLD ME HE COULD STAY ANOTHER MONTH IN THE HOSPITAL BUT AFTER HE’LL NEED TO GO HOME AND CAME BACK IN 6 MONTHS FOR HIS BIG SURGERY.I BEEN CRYING A LOT IN THE HOSPITAL BUT I HAVE A LOT SUPPORT FROM THE NURSES.THEY ARE GREAT!!!!SO TO ALL THE PEOPLE JUDGING OTHERS FOR TERMINATE A PREGNANCY BELIEVE ME STOP DOING THAT KEEP YOUR OPINION FOR YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT IN THE POSITION I AM!!!BELIEVE ME YOU DON’T WANT TO BE ME NOW…I LOVE MY BABY ,I WISH HIM THE BEST!!!I’M NOT TAKING HIM HOME NOT BECAUSE I’M HEARTLESS BUT FOR THE WELL BEING OF MY FAMILY.HOW WOULD I EXPLAIN TO MYSELF,MY HUSBAND AND MY OTHER SON THAT THE BABY NEEDS TO BE PLACED IN ANOTHER FAMILY AFTER 6 MONTHS?I’M SORRY BUT I WILL NOT BE CAPABLE TO LIVE THAT..HE WILL BE TAKING CARE OF IN ANOTHER FACILITY WITH NURSES,I WILL STILL BE ABLE TO GO SEE HIM AND TO BE THERE FOR HIS BIG DAY TO CAME!!!AM I ABLE TO STAY THERE FOR HIM FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE?I KNOW I CAN’T DO IT WITHOUT HAVING ANY SUPPORT…I FORGOT TO TELL YOU I DON’T HAVE ANY FAMILY SUPPORT IN FACT MY MOTHER IN LAW IS TELLING MY HUSBAND TO LEAVE ME BECAUSE SHE THINKS I’M SICK… THANK GOD HE LOVES ME AND WE’RE REALLY TAKING DECISIONS TOGHETHER
his surgery went fine…poor thing is so strong.he’ll have his big surgery when he turns 6 months.i pray everything will be fine..
Excellent news, angela! Power of prayer’s the best and he (and you and your family) stays in mine.
Hello everybody..it’s been a longt time since i checked this site again!!!finally on november 5th the baby will have his big surgery…but he is being doing good!!!he is so strong and with a big smile on his face…the prospective parents didn’t work out good by the end.we were 100%honest with them we asked if they were ready for any outcoming from the surgeries the baby needed.at first they said yes but when the doctor told us that the baby needed to stay longer in the hospital…they start talking about how costly it was getting …and she bacame somebodyelse.i could read fear and anger in her eyes…so i change my mind .we are know working with the down association and they are helping us finding a good family for him.i don’t care about money i just want the best for the baby and my family.there is not being not even a day i don’t torture myselg with guilty feelings…please i’m asking God for a sign!!!
Hi Angela!
It is so good to hear from you again. I’ll be praying for you and your baby. It sounds like you’re doing everything you can, so we’ll just trust the Lord to do the rest.
Am I wrong, our are you in much better spirits than the last time we heard from you?
I hope the surgery went well, Angela.
Mike, thanks for hitting on this thread again. Angela, hope you check in again and are staying positive. I have you and the baby on my prayer list and I think about you often.